Dear Friends,
Negativity happens to all of us regardless of age and gender. How do we deal with it? Here is a nice article about how to develop some strong coping skills to help minimize the impact on us.
Dealing with Negativity in Everyday Life
Even though this newsletter is geared toward positive thinking, you will notice mention of “negative” circumstances here and there. This is for a good reason, and that is because negativity is a fact of life.
You’ve probably got plenty of negativity in your own life – whether it’s in the form of toxic people, job stress, rude drivers, disagreements with your spouse, or even your own undisciplined thoughts.
Negativity Happens
It happens to all of us. No matter how intently we focus in positive directions, there will always be negativity around us in some form.
The purpose of this newsletter and the Wings for the Heart website is not to eradicate negativity, but to help you learn how to handle it in healthy ways.
Denying that negativity exists won’t help you because if you are aware of it at all, it is real to you. You can try painting it with rose-colored paint or dumping rose-scented perfume on it, but it’s still going to reek of negativity.
Instead of trying to deny it or run away from it, you’ll be much better served if you can develop some strong coping skills to help you minimize the impact it has on you. What kind of skills?
- Detachment
When something is bothering you, one of the most empowering things you can do is let go of it mentally and emotionally. Sometimes this is hard to do, but it’s one of those skills that gets easier when you really practice it a lot. “Letting go” of something that is bothering you means refusing to dwell on it, obsess over it, focus on it, worry about it, fume over it, and so on.
Instead, you simply set it aside and turn your attention to other tasks that don’t upset you.
You might think that this means the original problem will still be there waiting for you when you focus on it again – but not always! When you get a little distance from worries and troubles, you’d be amazed how quickly solutions can spontaneously appear! Even if a solution hasn’t yet arrived, you will undoubtedly feel a bit more balanced and confident about dealing with the issue since you no longer feel emotionally overwhelmed by it.
- Positive Expectation
When you view a negative problem or situation with a pessimistic attitude, you are basically just contributing more negativity and reinforcing the power of the problem to keep you feeling unhappy.
On the other hand, when you decide that all problems are transitory and choose to see it from a more optimistic point of view, you immediately become receptive to solutions. You awaken the creative power of your subconscious mind and allow solutions and ideas to come flooding in when you least expect them.
If you find it challenging to stay optimistic during challenges, the reason might be because you don’t KNOW for sure that everything will work out. The uncertainty might make you feel nervous, so you can’t feel hopeful. A good solution for this challenge is to blindly BELIEVE that a solution exists and that it will come to you with perfect timing.
“I have no idea how this situation can be improved, but I know that there must be many possible solutions, and I believe that the best one will come to me quickly and easily.”
Even though there’s no way to avoid negativity in your everyday life, it doesn’t have to RULE your life, either! You have the power to choose where you place your focus, and your happiness, peace and well-being will be decided according to how you exercise that choice.
As you practice directing your thoughts away from negativity and toward positivity more and more, you will find that it gets easier and more effective the more you do it. Eventually you reach a point where you no longer fear negativity. You no longer feel overwhelmed by it. And you no longer feel like you have to run from it.
You simply turn your thoughts to more productive subjects and enjoy greater happiness, health, abundance and well-being because of it.
Today’s Quote:
“Life is a mirror and will reflect back to the thinker what he thinks into it.” – Ernest Holmes
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